Narcissism Often Prods A Cheating Heart

"What motivates cheaters? What are they thinking? How can smart people do such stupid things? With John Edward's recent confession of infidelity, these questions are all over the news. Oprah is even doing a show on why men cheat.

Most people believe that when partners cheat, it's a symptom of a bad relationship. They ask, "What was he or she not getting at home?" You can even find experts urging scorned women to snap men out of their doldrums by surprising them with something sexy . . . to be more "kittenish" so their tomcats are less likely to prowl. What a bunch of sexist hooey!

I'm not saying that adding some spice to your usual routine isn't a reasonable antidote for sexual boredom. But it won't keep a cheater from being unfaithful if the motivation for the infidelity is a fundamentally flawed self-esteem accompanied by an insatiable thirst for attention, novelty or excitement. Narcissistic entitlement, devoid of empathy, is often at the heart of infidelity. The narcissist seductively idealizes the new love interest while denigrating what they have at home.

So what are cheaters thinking?" The answer is - they're probably not. The truth is that we don't usually cheat because of something missing in our partner; we cheat because of something missing within ourselves.

But regardless of the motivation, there is no justification for an affair."

Read the full story by Dr. Sandra Scantling at courant.com

Russians lie the most about where they've been!

If you think you know where your husband or wife is, think again. In our latest global survey, the top response in 14 of 15 countries was lying about one's whereabouts. Russians fib the most about where they've been. (They also have the highest divorce rate among the nations polled.)

Read the full story at Readers Digest

Your Wife May Be Cheating On You Right Now

And "it's happening where you least expect it." 'Let’s get something straight: You are not some fedora-tipping Man of the House who comes home from the office expecting the rump roast to be on the table. Nor are you an aging frat boy who sits in front of the flat-screen with an Icehouse while wifey irons your Red Wings jersey. You are sensitive. You were raised by a working woman. You wipe down the counters after you make the kids’ lunches. No decent woman would cheat on a man like that, right? That’s what Rob (not his real name) thought, anyway. The 41-year-old financial analyst had a house in the D.C. suburbs, two kids, and in his own words, a “goody-two-shoes” wife from a nice Catholic family. Last fall, Rob’s wife began to seem depressed, “like something was bothering her and she wouldn’t tell me what it was,” he says. In December, after stumbling across some e-mails, Rob found out exactly what was bothering his wife: She had reconnected with an old flame. She’d been reconnecting with him for five months. “It’s far worse than you can possibly imagine,” he says.""Today's wife knows nothing of the isolation of her mid-century counterpart. She has Internet chat rooms and cell phones. She has personal trainers, yoga instructors, and mommy groups. Mommy groups? Why would any man think he had reason to get twitchy about his wife's going to a mommy group?"

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